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Common Emotions Adults Feel Following Divorce

Posted by Crissy Del Percio | Nov 10, 2019 | 0 Comments

common emotions adults feel following divorce

Divorce is a significant life event that can bring on a range of feelings. Navigating this period after divorce may be difficult, to help rebuild your life post-divorce it is essential to comprehend common responses.

Grief and Loss
Divorce marks an end to an important chapter of one's life and can bring up deep emotions of loss and grief for adults who had once imagined their lives together with their former partner. To fully heal from divorce it's essential to allow oneself time for grieving.

Transitioning from married life to single life can cause feelings of deep loneliness for adults. Adults may feel left out during times they used to share with their spouse, such as celebrating holidays. To cope with loneliness, adults need to make new connections, pursue passions they had not before shared with a partner, and create supportive networks of people around them.

Anger and Resentment
Anger and resentment can be natural reactions to challenges and conflicts that often accompany divorce proceedings. These feelings could be directed toward either your ex-spouse, yourself, or the circumstances leading up to it . It's important to recognize and process these emotions so you can move on emotionally with healing.

Fear and Uncertainty
Divorce brings with it many unknowns that may create anxiety for adults. Concerns could range from finances, co-parenting arrangements, new relationships, or future cohabitation arrangements; all issues to be taken seriously as you make plans and seek assistance for. By facing your fears head-on by actively planning and seeking assistance you can reduce any feeling of unpredictability.

Guilt and Self-Blame
After going through a divorce, many adults begin to question their role in its dissolution. Even when divorce is mutually agreed upon, feelings of guilt or self-blame can still arise, as divorce is a complex and multi-layered process that often leaves us wondering who was at fault and preventing healing. Attributing sole blame solely to yourself may hinder this process and hinder recovery.

Divorced individuals may feel relief after the end of an unhappy or contentious marriage. Divorce provides newfound freedom and an opportunity for personal growth, making this transitional period one worth exploring emotionally. One method to navigate such feelings would be through psychoanalysis of emotions such as relief.

Confusion and Identity Crisis
After experiencing divorce, one may need to reevaluate their identity and self-perception. Adults might need to ask themselves who they are apart from the marriage context. Making personal growth your focus during this period of self-discovery will allow you to form an authentic new identity that resonates with who you are as an individual.

Acceptance and Healing
Many adults are working toward acceptance and healing over time. Accepting your divorce as part of your life means learning to cope with it while healing is the result of self-care, support, and creating positive thoughts about the future.

Optimism and the Future
Adults typically emerge from divorce with an increased sense of optimism about the future. Learning resilience to face and overcome challenges during a separation or divorce can bring personal and emotional growth. Redefining life goals and exploring possibilities for a fulfilling future are often sources of comfort during such challenging times.


Divorce can be an emotional journey, leading to many varied and conflicting feelings in adults during and after their separation. To manage grief, anger, loneliness, and other related emotions successfully, individuals must be self-aware, have patience with themselves, and dedicate themselves to personal growth. Acceptance and acknowledging feelings can lead to healing and self-discovery.

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About the Author

Crissy Del Percio

Crissy Del Percio is a graduate of the University of Missouri-Kansas City School of Law. Additionally, she received her undergraduate degrees in Journalism (News and Information) and Communication Studies from the world-renowned home of the Jayhawks – the University of Kansas. She has been practicing law for a decade and spent the first part of her career specializing in helping low-income survivors of domestic violence. Now at Drama-Free Divorce, Crissy enjoys helping people consciously uncouple. She is also a Guardian Ad Litem and domestic mediator. Crissy has won a number of prestigious awards for her work in public service, but you likely recognize her from her acting career, where she is also an award-winner. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her egregiously overpriced dog, Augustus Rodham and knitting. 


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