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The Effects of Various Approaches to Parenting Children of Divorced Families

Posted by Crissy Del Percio | Nov 24, 2019 | 0 Comments

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Divorce can be an intricate web of complex values and perspectives between both parents, which often leads to diverging parenting beliefs about child-rearing philosophies that have an enormous effect on children from divorced families' well-being, stability, and development. This exploration delves deeper into this dynamic by seeking to understand how different parental philosophies impact the experiences of kids who navigate divorce.

The Parental Belief 
Parents often hold beliefs shaped by upbringing, culture, and personal experience that vary widely from those held by their co-parent. Co-parenting involves sharing this responsibility among both parties involved and can bring out these differences of opinion in unexpected ways, necessitating careful negotiation between both.

Impact on Emotional Well-Being
Divorced families can experience emotional instability due to divergent parenting beliefs. Consistency is the cornerstone of emotional stability for children who may find themselves dealing with differing rules, expectations, or discipline methods between their parents. Any discrepancies can cause significant confusion and emotional distress for these youngsters. Even during divorce proceedings, parents must remain united front in front of their children for them to feel safe and stable.

Conflicted Values and identity formation
Parents play an essential role in shaping their children's values and identities, with diverging views sometimes leading to conflicting messages about what's important or acceptable. Children must navigate this terrain of identity formation on their own; having access to both sets of parents can make this journey both enriching and difficult.

Co-parenting Presents Several Challenges
Co-parenting is a shared responsibility that extends well beyond divorce proceedings. While making decisions together about child rearing can be challenging when there are significant differences of opinion on what's best, communication and compromise are vital in creating an amicable environment conducive to co-parenting.

Navigating Cultural and Religious Variations
Parents whose cultural or religious beliefs differ can compound differences in child-rearing practices, leaving children caught between the expectations and values of both parents. Children must then try to navigate between this clash of perspectives while still forging their path. To promote understanding and acceptance, an open dialogue must be encouraged which embraces cultural and religious differences.


Effective Strategies for Coparenting in Harmony

Establishing open lines of communication between parents is vital in creating an atmosphere conducive to positive child-rearing experiences for their child/children. Both parties should participate in active discussions regarding childrearing beliefs while seeking to understand each other and find points of agreement between their parenting approaches.

Consistency of Core Values
Although specific approaches can differ, identifying core values and upholding consistency provides children with a strong base from which to grow. To create a harmonious parenting style, it is crucial to establish key principles such as discipline, education, and wellbeing that will serve as the basis of agreement on basic rules of parenting.

Respect Individual Roles
Recognizing and acknowledging the distinct roles each parent plays in their children's lives is of vital importance, both positively and from a functional standpoint. Recognizing each parent's contributions while accepting different viewpoints helps foster an environment that is balanced and supportive of growth.

Professional Guidance
If conflicts persist, seeking the advice of a family counselor or therapist can be immensely helpful. Professional intervention can assist parents in managing differences more efficiently while encouraging effective communication and prioritizing what's in the best interests of their children.

Diverse Perspectives
Differing views on child-rearing can be challenging, yet also provide children with an opportunity to benefit from different viewpoints and values. Exposing children to diverse values and points of view helps broaden their worldview, encouraging adaptability and empathy towards others while building resilience by learning to navigate complex divergent belief systems.


In conclusion, divorced parents' differing views on child-rearing can negatively impact their children, so understanding and collaboration are crucial for a harmonious co-parenting relationship. Addressing challenges and prioritizing children's well-being can foster harmony. Recognizing this diversity can help children navigate child-rearing with empathy and cooperation.

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About the Author

Crissy Del Percio

Crissy Del Percio is a graduate of the University of Missouri-Kansas City School of Law. Additionally, she received her undergraduate degrees in Journalism (News and Information) and Communication Studies from the world-renowned home of the Jayhawks – the University of Kansas. She has been practicing law for a decade and spent the first part of her career specializing in helping low-income survivors of domestic violence. Now at Drama-Free Divorce, Crissy enjoys helping people consciously uncouple. She is also a Guardian Ad Litem and domestic mediator. Crissy has won a number of prestigious awards for her work in public service, but you likely recognize her from her acting career, where she is also an award-winner. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her egregiously overpriced dog, Augustus Rodham and knitting. 


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