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Do’s and Don’ts Of Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

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do’s and don’ts of co-parenting with a narcissist

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Co-parenting can be an arduous journey without proper support and strategies in place, making co-parenting with someone who is a Narcissist even more of a struggle. We will explore both dos and don'ts when co-parenting alongside this type of individual and also discuss typical responses they have when co-parenting, before providing insight on how best to handle such circumstances.


How do narcissists respond to co-parenting?

Understanding narcissist behavior is key to co-parenting successfully. Narcissists typically exhibit characteristics like self-centeredness and manipulation. They have a strong need to control, which could manifest itself differently when faced with co-parenting responsibilities: they could act out physically, withdraw emotionally, or react aggressively - among many other responses.

  • Narcissists seek control, manipulating situations in order to maintain their dominance and stay dominant over others.
  • Some people may take deliberate steps to undermine your decisions as co-parents in order to establish their authority and take over from you.
  • Narcissists often succeed at portraying themselves to others as victims, in order to garner sympathy and gain support.
  • Be wary of any attempts at emotional manipulation, including guilt trips, gaslighting, and emotional manipulation.


What to Do if Your Co-Parent Is Narcissist

Co-parenting with a narcissist while protecting the well-being of your child can be done successfully. There are various approaches you can take.

  • Establish Boundaries: Set clear boundaries with your partner, avoiding personal and emotional discourse while keeping communications focused solely on your child.
  • Keep meticulous records of every interaction and agreement, which may prove indispensable if legal action becomes necessary.
  • Reach Out To A Therapist Or Support Group: Speaking to a therapist can help ease the emotional strain of co-parenting a child with a Narcissist and sharing experiences can be comforting. Similarly sharing them can bring about much-needed comfort from other people who have also gone through similar trials and can also be immensely useful.
  • Keep a Positive Attitude: Focus on what is in the best interests of your child rather than engaging in power struggles or emotional turmoil. A positive outlook can help defuse stressful situations more quickly.
  • Consult an Attorney: For your own protection as well as that of your child's wellbeing, legal assistance from someone experienced in dealing with co-parents who exhibit narcissistic traits is invaluable. Legal representation can protect both of your rights while simultaneously improving child wellbeing.


What Not to Do If Your Co-Parent is a Narcissist

Co-parenting with someone who is narcissistic requires being mindful to avoid certain activities.

  • Don't Engage in Power Struggles: Power struggles should be avoided at all costs, narcissists thrive on conflict and may try to engage you in one. Avoid engaging in power struggles as this will only worsen the situation.
  • Avoid Reacting Emotionally: Narcissists have long been adept at manipulating people through emotional manipulation, so staying calm and composed can help protect you from becoming emotionally involved with their agenda.
  • Don't Isolate Yourself: Avoid isolating yourself. Reach out to family, friends, and support groups in order to reduce the likelihood of manipulation. Isolation increases susceptibility.


How do you expose a narcissist in custody?

Doing your best to expose a narcissist during a custody dispute can be challenging, but doing so is critical for the well-being of your child. Here are some key considerations:

  • Document their Behavior: Keep detailed records of any instances of abuse, neglect, or manipulation that take place. These documents can later serve as evidence in court proceedings.
  • Professional Assessments: For objective assessments of your child's behavior and interactions with their narcissistic parent, seek professional help from child psychologists or counselors. They can give an objective evaluation.
  • Consider Mediation: Mediation can sometimes help facilitate an agreement regarding child custody. Just ensure the process is fair, though.
  • Consult an Attorney: An experienced family law lawyer can guide you through the legal process and gather evidence on your behalf, in preparation for court.


Why hiring a divorce lawyer is better than not having one?

Investing in legal representation if you co-parent with an aggressive narcissist could prove invaluable. Here's why:

  • Legal Expertise: Attorneys have an in-depth knowledge of family law. They can offer tailored advice that protects both your rights and those of your child.
  • Objective Perspective: An experienced lawyer can provide an objective viewpoint, helping you make more rational, rather than emotional decisions.
  • Negotiation Skills: These experts possess expert negotiating abilities that can lead to favorable results without prolonged legal battles.
  • Courtroom Experience: Your attorney should have experience handling court cases if litigation becomes necessary.


When should you hire an attorney?

Timeliness is key when seeking legal representation, so consult an attorney as soon as you suspect or feel your situation requires it. For instance:

  • Your child's well-being may be being put at risk due to ongoing disputes with a narcissistic parent.
  • Your concerns over your child's physical or emotional well-being under parental care have you worried.
  • Complex co-parenting situations necessitate an in-depth knowledge of your rights and options.


What criteria should be used when selecting an attorney?

Finding the appropriate lawyer is of utmost importance, so when searching for legal representation keep these criteria in mind:

  • Experience: When hiring an attorney to represent your interests when dealing with co-parents who exhibit narcissistic tendencies, look for one with ample experience handling such cases.
  • Reputation: Consider reading reviews of your attorney and solicit advice from reliable sources before selecting one to represent you.
  • Communication: Look for an attorney who keeps you up-to-date.
  • Compatibility: Your attorney should exude confidence when representing your best interests.


Why Choose Drama-Free Divorce?

Our firm understands the difficulties involved with co-parenting a narcissist and has helped clients successfully navigate such tricky situations. Our attorneys have extensive family law experience and are known for standing up for both their rights as clients as well as protecting and advocating for those of their children.

At our core lies communication. We prioritize clear and regular updates during all legal proceedings to help ensure you and your family achieve the best outcome possible.


Suggestions for Action

  • Consult an Attorney: If you are experiencing difficulty co-parenting a narcissist and encounter any obstacles while doing so, it may be beneficial to speak to an experienced family lawyer for guidance and advice.
  • Join Support Groups: Finding groups of like-minded individuals can be immensely helpful, and sharing experiences and strategies is invaluable.
  • Document Your Interactions: Keep careful records of every conversation with a co-parent who is narcissistic, noting any behavior that concerns you or any violations of your custody agreement.
  • Prioritize Your Child: Always ensure the well-being and best interests of your children come first in any decision-making.
  • Stay Informed: Do not be intimidated to seek legal advice if necessary.

Co-parenting with a narcissist is possible, but you will require the appropriate support and legal guidance in order to do it successfully. Contact us today at 816 615-5555 or send us an email on our Contact Page.

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